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Challenge: Lose the Baby Weight, WEEK 4. Making time for yourself

April 18, 2011

The classic Mom mentality is “everyone is more important than I am.”  I always swore that I would not be “that mom”. You know her when you see her–hair in a ratty pony tail, sloppy sweats, no make up, bags under her eyes…frumpy and still holding on to the baby weight…even as her youngest learns to ride a bike 🙂 That’s the mom who puts everyone first and herself last.

Since becoming a mom…I’ve discovered it is easier to get out of the house in the morning if I only dress two people rather than three. That’s how I end up in the day care parking lot wearing sweats with a ratty pony tail of my own and no make up.  I feed my kids first, I take care of myself last…that’s just how it goes for the most part.

Now, I’m getting better at prioritizing my own needs here and there.  I take the little one to day care 9 hours per week because we don’t have help or family close by and I NEED the time. I NEED IT. I hired a personal trainer for the three hours a week that I do get to spend in the gym to make the most out of the limited time that I do have.

Fine, you say…but what if I can’t get to the gym? What if I can’t pay for a trainer? What if I’m still eating discarded chicken nuggets because I just don’t have the time or energy to make it happen right now?

We can all find the time.  We just have to make ourselves as much of a priority as our children.

I have a “Mom Agenda” calendar and every week I pencil in our schedules. I know when my husband is working late and when he will be home for dinner. I know which days I will be spending an hour at the gym and which days I will be taking the baby to the grocery store. I know when we have play dates and when we have appointments that require extra planning. I write down my ideas for meals for the week–easy stuff when J is working late and stuff that I can make extra portions of for later in the week when I need it.

I pencil in time for me.

I am a member of this family and I am important.

It all seems to come together if I think about it before hand.  Even paying for a trainer works out when it means less money on clothes because I have better self esteem and feel happy wearing an old tee shirt and jeans because I feel good in my body.

Feeling good in my body is such a high priority for me. It’s the difference between hiding from a camera when we’re taking family photos and making a memory. It’s the difference between trying on 10 outfits before going on a date night with my husband and putting something on and leaving the house feeling good. It means less need for shoes, pedicures/manicures/hair style/make up….because I am happier with what I’ve got. That is worth the amount I spend to get there.

If you aren’t where you want to be and you think that you don’t have the time or the resources to make a change–take a moment to look at what it costs you to be unhappy with yourself. What do you miss out on? What do you do to compensate?

My monthly gym membership and my trainer works out to 2 trips to the salon for a manicure/pedicure….or 2 nights out to dinner…or 1 new outfit. I am willing to give up something in exchange for feeling great.

This week’s challenge is to make yourself a priority. Find some time 3 times this week to devote to your own health and well being. You might end up going for a walk during your lunch break…exercising to a dvd while hubby entertains the kids…or getting a trip to the gym in before waking the kids up for school. You can do it!

5 Comments leave one →
  1. April 18, 2011 11:36 pm

    I love you! I really needed to read this today. Thank You!

    • Jen permalink*
      April 19, 2011 1:00 am

      xoxo Kelley! You can do it!

  2. Liz permalink
    April 20, 2011 1:15 am

    I like the phrase, “look at what it costs you to be unhappy with yourself”. It’s true even for non-Moms! 😉

    • Jen permalink*
      April 20, 2011 2:20 am

      It’s true for us all! I spend so much more on “appearance” when I’m not where I’d like to be.


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